One Sided Love

Unrequited, unanswered, unreturned or unpaid love. All these miseries imply to a single one, One sided Love.

Though called imperfect and painful, many people happen to end up with one. But what actually defines one or two sided love?

 

What Happens in Love?

The criteria of loving someone may depend on love and the lover, however, love brings something common to everybody. 

When in love, neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin fill up parts of mind related to pleasure and rewards, causing physical and psychological reactions such as less perceived pain, an addictive dependence, and a stronger desire to experience these emotions over and over.

 

This intuitive explanation works fine with our day to day encounters. You attracted to somebody or someone tilted towards you and eventually both lead to a loving, committed relationship. So far so good.

But we often say we love something (an object), though something will never goanna love us back, means no dual side engagement. Only you yourself are creating love for the thing. So what kind of love will it be? Did you say one sided? Here's the catch. Love is always one sided.

A One Sided Love Affair

In a two sided love fantasy, loving something or some ambition doesn't have any ground. Anything that can't love you back will simply be out of the list.

 

Also, two sided love make us seek love from our partner. Seeking love may not be a good idea since in a two sided affair your partner may wish for the same too. Both expecting desired behaviour from the other and less interested in fulfilling what the other person wants. These personal interests in love could make both persons looking for their own mean, making room for distress and scarcity.

 

Consider a couple in a typical intimate two sided relationship. Since both are believing in mutual participation, each of them wants the other to give the best possible. Each desire the other to be at least as engaging and loyal as he or she is. Both of them are wishing for their own means, overlooking the actual needs of the relationship. 

Such attitudes in relationships where each is seeking emotional fulfilment from the other are common, and no-doubt are bound to conflict.

So if you are someone believing love to be two sided, you're not alone. Love is often regarded in movies or literature as a two sided commitment, though practically it's difficult to digest it. Your love remains always your sided and you can't control the other person's side.

You can't choose love on behalf of somebody nor you capable of changing someone's mind. Even if you manage to convince them to do so, in long-term they'll surely be making choices in their own interest.

Is There Value for You to Express Yourself?

So if there's nothing you can do on the other end, is there any value in expressing yourself to others? Or even having expectations in love?

Of course, there is. One sided love doesn't mean to become partially involve. It means to love someone irrespective how the other person is loving you. In this way, you will not be loving for seeking love in return, your love will not be based on any of your selfish motives. By not being self-centric, you can find out what is actually required for a relationship to be longlasting.

It's not about having no expectations form your partner, but having realistic expectations.

 

So if you are someone in a love affair where you love your partner and your partner loves you, and you wonder whether your love is one sided or two... Your love is always one sided (your sided) and so do your partner's.

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